Have you been wanting to change something about you, your mindset or lifestyle, for what seems like forever? Deep inside you know that in order to take your health and happiness to the next level you need to cut back on late-night TV, your coffee, weed or wine consumption. Perhaps you're craving mind-expanding experiences in the form of trekking, learning Spanish or how to tango, all while making new friends? You tell yourself you'll get to it soon, usually “tomorrow”. Tomorrow you'll start feeding yourself the nourishment you crave. But tomorrow never comes.
LOVE : one of the most used and misused words out there.
But love without self-love ain’t love.
It’s called attachment, leads to codependency, love addiction and general unhappiness. Often when people fall in “love” (the falling is real, not the love) it’s because of how they feel in the presence of another: appreciated, soothed, special, beautiful, admired, seen. And we think that’s love. No, that’s using someone else to make yourself feel good. We all do it unconsciously of course, until the other, a perfectly imperfect human being, can no longer provide for all our (emotional) needs. And we get mad. Or…
Happy New Year! Happy New You...? We know how those new year resolutions go, don't we? So I'll be quick and to the point. If you're going to make any progress this year as far as your health is concerned (physical, emotional or spiritual) it will happen within supportive partnerships. If what you need support with is better self-care so you can sleep better, stress less and enjoy your life more, I may have what you need: a Naturally Stress-Free 6-week series. Class starts on Friday 1/11.
I’m talking about aromatherapy, of course, one of my all-time favorite ways to induce a relaxed, happy state. Aromatherapy, as the name says, is the use of aromas for therapeutic purposes. Today I want to focus on how to use aromatherapy to elicit a relaxation response, by using the powerful link between our sense of smell, emotions and memory.
I hope yesterday's Harvest Moon has you reaping the fruits of past work, internal or external. Full moons can heighten some emotions or illumine previously buried ones, a good thing if you ask me. Still, double up on self-care. Maybe my new class can help with that...
Back in June I gave a workshop on healing anxiety at the Flatiron Athleta studio. It was very well received. Athleta's mission (empowering women and girls) and mine (holistic emotional healing) perfectly align, and so we are continuing to partner-up.
In this one-hour class (starting on 9/29 @1:45pm), we will focus on regulating and replenishing our nervous system. If you’re stressed, anxious, can’t sleep or just want a healthy time-out from your busy life this class is for you.
Anxiety arises as a result of too much movement in the mind, i.e. unbridled thinking. This is really what I have observed in myself, my friends and my clients: anxiety can always be traced back to a thought (or a hundred of them!), a fearful thought, often related to the future, and most of all a thought that we believe and react to. So, how do you keep the mind from thinking those thoughts? You don’t. Trying to control one’s thoughts is the last thing you want to do, for it will instead feed the very thoughts you are trying to get rid of. Instead you go the roundabout way.
As a coach, my job is to look at what it is you do or don’t do, in the present, that’s causing you to feel anxious. In fact I have observed again and again that every choice we make daily, from the time we choose to go to bed to the thoughts we think or the type of media we feed our minds, either helps us to cultivate a reactive or nonreactive nervous system, stress or ease. So, what daily choices can you make to support a non-reactive nervous system? To answer this question I’ll put on my ayurvedic practitioner’s hat.
Anxiolytics may help some people, some of the time, but they are not a panacea.
Nearly 50 million anxiolytics prescriptions are written yearly, a booming market I think we can say, but americans seem increasingly anxious. Or increasingly addicted to anxiolytics? Possibly both. While short-term use of these medications is considered “safe and effective”, long-term use is controversial because of the potential for dependence and other adverse effects (6). The long term use of benzodiazepines (a class of drugs primarily used for treating anxiety, such as Xanax, Klonopin, Valium...) has been shown to worsen sleep, increase anxiety...